{"id":15571,"date":"2022-05-20T09:30:59","date_gmt":"2022-05-20T08:30:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/?p=15571"},"modified":"2022-05-20T09:30:59","modified_gmt":"2022-05-20T08:30:59","slug":"kardesler-arasi-rekabeti-onlemek-icin-cocuklarinizi-birbiriyle-kiyaslamayin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/en\/kardesler-arasi-rekabeti-onlemek-icin-cocuklarinizi-birbiriyle-kiyaslamayin\/","title":{"rendered":"Karde\u015fler aras\u0131 rekabeti \u00f6nlemek i\u00e7in \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 birbiriyle k\u0131yaslamay\u0131n"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u0130nsan\u0131n karde\u015finin olmas\u0131 \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli ve de\u011ferli\u2026 Ancak bu durum karde\u015fler aras\u0131nda rekabet oldu\u011fu ger\u00e7e\u011fini de de\u011fi\u015ftirmiyor.&nbsp;Karde\u015f rekabetinin karde\u015fler aras\u0131nda k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k, yar\u0131\u015f ve kavgalar\u0131n ya\u015fanmas\u0131 durumu oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyen<strong>&nbsp;DoktorTakvimi.com uzmanlar\u0131ndan Psk. Dan. Hava Ar\u0131tan<\/strong>,<strong>&nbsp;<\/strong>asl\u0131nda k\u0131skan\u0131lan\u0131n karde\u015f de\u011fil ebeveynlerin ilgi ve zaman\u0131n\u0131n payla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131 oldu\u011funa dikkat \u00e7ekiyor. Karde\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki rekabet b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ocuk, ortanca \u00e7ocuk ve k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuk olma durumuna g\u00f6re \u015fekil de\u011fi\u015ftirebiliyor. B\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ocuk her zaman evin ilk g\u00f6z a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131 oluyor. B\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ocukla anne-baba olmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenen \u00e7iftler ilk \u00e7ocu\u011fa her zaman iltimas g\u00f6sterebiliyor. B\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ocu\u011fun her \u015feyi en iyi bilen, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan, ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 \u00e7ocuk unvanlar\u0131na sahip oldu\u011funu anlatan <a href=\"https:\/\/www.doktortakvimi.com\/hava-aritan\/psikolojik-danisma-ve-rehberlik\/ankara#:~:text=Dan.-,Hava%20Ar\u0131tan%20%2C%20Psikolojik%20dan\u0131\u015fma%20ve%20rehberlik%20alan\u0131nda%20hizmet%20vermektedir.,say\u0131da%20bireysel%20dan\u0131\u015fmal\u0131k%20\u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131%20yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>Psk. Dan. Ar\u0131tan<\/strong><\/a>, bu nedenle ilgiden en b\u00fcy\u00fck pay\u0131 alan\u0131n ilk \u00e7ocuk oldu\u011funu belirtiyor.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_15573\" style=\"width: 784px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-15573\" class=\"wp-image-15573\" src=\"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/1fe890f36128dae2d3663990f3ae078a.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"774\" height=\"775\" title=\"\"><p id=\"caption-attachment-15573\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Psk. Dan. Hava Ar\u0131tan<\/p><\/div>\n<p>\u201c\u0130kinci \u00e7ocu\u011fun d\u00fcnyaya gelmesiyle b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ocu\u011fun taht\u0131 sallan\u0131yor\u201d diyen Psk. Dan. Ar\u0131tan, \u015f\u00f6yle devam ediyor: \u201cArt\u0131k ailenin ilgisini ve sevgisini payla\u015fmak zorunda oldu\u011fu bir rakibi olan karde\u015fi d\u00fcnyaya gelince b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ocuk ne yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u015fa\u015f\u0131r\u0131yor. Bu nedenle g\u00fcc\u00fcn \u00f6nemli bir \u015fey oldu\u011fu sonucunu \u00e7\u0131karabiliyor. \u0130kinci \u00e7ocuk ise do\u011fdu\u011fu g\u00fcnden itibaren ilgiyi karde\u015fiyle payla\u015fmak zorundad\u0131r. Bu nedenle bir yar\u0131\u015ftaym\u0131\u015f gibi hisseder. Rakibi olan birinci \u00e7ocu\u011fu yenmek i\u00e7in s\u00fcrekli kendini e\u011fitir. Bunun i\u00e7inde birinci \u00e7ocu\u011fun ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z oldu\u011fu konularda ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r ki ailenin ilgisini ve \u00f6vg\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc kazanabilsin. Ancak birinci \u00e7ocuk \u00e7ok iyi ise ikinci \u00e7ocuk yar\u0131\u015ftan vazge\u00e7ebilir. Bu da onu cesaretsiz biri yapabilir. Genellikle ikinci \u00e7ocuk birinci \u00e7ocu\u011fun tam tersi \u00f6zelliklere sahiptir.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ortanca \u00e7ocuklar kendini arada ezilmi\u015f gibi hissedebilir<\/strong><\/p><div id=\"briti-3530777770\" class=\"briti-icerik\" style=\"margin-top: 5px;margin-bottom: 5px;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/piaryum.com\/services\/\" aria-label=\"piaryum banner\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/Gemini_Generated_Image_g5yqr1g5yqr1g5yq.jpg\" alt=\"\"  width=\"2064\" height=\"1152\"   \/><\/a><\/div>\n<p>En k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuk her zaman ailenin bebe\u011fidir ve bu nedenle de en \u00e7ok \u015f\u0131mart\u0131lan \u00e7ocuktur. En k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocu\u011fu karde\u015fleri ondan daha ileride oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in kendi yoluna gitme e\u011filiminde oldu\u011funu belirten DoktorTakvimi.com uzmanlar\u0131ndan Psk. Dan. Hava Ar\u0131tan, en k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocu\u011fun oynayacak \u00f6zel bir role sahip olmak i\u00e7in kendine di\u011fer karde\u015flerin denemedi\u011fi farkl\u0131 yollar geli\u015ftirebildi\u011fini anlat\u0131yor. Karde\u015f say\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n ikiden fazla olmas\u0131 durumunda ikinci, \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc \u00e7ocuklar ortanca \u00e7ocuk konumuna gelebiliyor. Ortanca \u00e7ocu\u011fun genellikle kendini arada ezilmi\u015f hissedebildi\u011fini s\u00f6yleyen Psk. Dan. Ar\u0131tan, \u201cBu nedenle kendine ac\u0131yan bir ruh haline girip problemli bir \u00e7ocuk olma yoluna girebilir. E\u011fer karde\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki rekabetin \u015fiddeti b\u00fcy\u00fck ise bu kar\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7inde ortanca karde\u015f arabulucu rol\u00fc de \u00fcstlenebilir. E\u011fer ailede d\u00f6rd\u00fcnc\u00fc \u00e7ocuk varsa ikinci \u00e7ocuk kendini ortanca karde\u015f gibi hissedebilir. Bu sayede \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc \u00e7ocuk daha yumu\u015fak ba\u015fl\u0131 ve daha sosyal olabilir.&nbsp;Karde\u015fler aras\u0131nda rekabet, anne babalar\u0131 zaman zaman zor durumda b\u0131raksa da asl\u0131nda normal ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131d\u0131r.&nbsp;Karde\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki rekabet onlar\u0131n d\u00fcnya ya\u015fam\u0131nda nas\u0131l bir yer edineceklerini de belirler. Karde\u015fler bu rekabette belli bir ya\u015fam tarz\u0131 kazan\u0131rlar. Bu tarz\u0131 yeti\u015fkinlik d\u00f6nemlerindeki ya\u015fant\u0131lar\u0131na da ta\u015f\u0131rlar. Bu nedenle ebeveynlerin dikkatli olmas\u0131 gerekir\u201d diyor.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>DoktorTakvimi.com uzmanlar\u0131ndan Psk. Dan. Hava Ar\u0131tan, ebeveynlere d\u00fc\u015fen g\u00f6revleri ise \u015f\u00f6yle s\u0131ral\u0131yor:<\/p>\n<ul type=\"disc\">\n<li>\u00c7ocuklar birbirleriyle k\u0131yaslanmamal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00d6rne\u011fin; \u201cKarde\u015fin ne kadar g\u00fczel yap\u0131yor. Sen neden yapam\u0131yorsun?\u201d gibi c\u00fcmleler kurulmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Her \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendine \u00f6zg\u00fc yeteneklerini ve ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131 vard\u0131r. Bu gibi durumlarda mutlaka \u00f6vg\u00fc g\u00f6sterilmelidir.<\/li>\n<li>Her \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendine ait bir alana ve yeteri kadar zamana sahip oldu\u011fundan emin olunmal\u0131d\u0131r.&nbsp;Oyuncaklar\u0131n\u0131 ve \u00f6zel e\u015fyalar\u0131n\u0131 payla\u015fmadan \u00f6nce mutlaka sorulmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/li>\n<li>Karde\u015flerin birbirine nas\u0131l yakla\u015fmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fi g\u00f6sterilmelidir.<\/li>\n<li>Her \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendi kimli\u011fi vard\u0131r. Onlar\u0131 etiketlemeyin.<\/li>\n<li>\u0130\u015fbirli\u011fine te\u015fvik edin.<\/li>\n<li>Adil olmak \u00f6nemlidir. Her birine \u00f6zel olduklar\u0131 hissettirilmelidir.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n birlikte keyifli vakit ge\u00e7irmeleri sa\u011flanmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7at\u0131\u015fma ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131nda bu vakitler koruyucu i\u015flev g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Birlikte g\u00fczel an\u0131lar\u0131 payla\u015fmak, \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm \u00fcretmeyi daha kolay hale getirir.<\/li>\n<li>Ebeveynlerin d\u00fczenli olarak her \u00e7ocukla birebir zaman ge\u00e7irmesi \u00f6nemlidir.<\/li>\n<li>Aile ya\u015fant\u0131n\u0131z hakk\u0131ndaki duygu ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri dinlenmelidir.<\/li>\n<li>Tehlikeli kavgalar oluyorsa aile mutlaka araya girmelidir. Sakinle\u015ftiklerinde ne oldu\u011fu hakk\u0131nda konu\u015fulmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div id=\"briti-1829724889\" class=\"briti-icerikten-sonra_2\" style=\"margin-top: 25px;margin-bottom: 25px;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wa.me\/message\/NDZLLIOQT4H3O1\" aria-label=\"bytv reklam banner\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/bytv-reklam-banner.jpg\" alt=\"\"  width=\"2376\" height=\"1008\"   \/><\/a><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u0130nsan\u0131n karde\u015finin olmas\u0131 \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli ve de\u011ferli\u2026 Ancak bu durum karde\u015fler aras\u0131nda rekabet oldu\u011fu ger\u00e7e\u011fini de de\u011fi\u015ftirmiyor.&nbsp;Karde\u015f rekabetinin karde\u015fler aras\u0131nda k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k, yar\u0131\u015f ve kavgalar\u0131n ya\u015fanmas\u0131 durumu oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyen&nbsp;DoktorTakvimi.com uzmanlar\u0131ndan Psk. Dan. Hava Ar\u0131tan,&nbsp;asl\u0131nda k\u0131skan\u0131lan\u0131n karde\u015f de\u011fil ebeveynlerin ilgi ve zaman\u0131n\u0131n payla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131 oldu\u011funa dikkat \u00e7ekiyor. Karde\u015fler aras\u0131ndaki rekabet b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ocuk, ortanca \u00e7ocuk ve k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuk olma durumuna g\u00f6re \u015fekil de\u011fi\u015ftirebiliyor. B\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ocuk her zaman evin ilk g\u00f6z a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131 oluyor. B\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ocukla anne-baba olmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenen \u00e7iftler ilk \u00e7ocu\u011fa her zaman iltimas g\u00f6sterebiliyor. B\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ocu\u011fun her \u015feyi en iyi bilen, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan, ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 \u00e7ocuk unvanlar\u0131na sahip oldu\u011funu anlatan Psk. Dan. Ar\u0131tan, bu nedenle ilgiden [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":15572,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[4396,4397],"class_list":["post-15571","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-genel","tag-kardesler-arasi-rekabet","tag-psikoloji-danisman-hava-aritan"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15571","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15571"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15571\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15572"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15571"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15571"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/by-tv.co.uk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15571"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}